Why is working at Mayyim Hayyim so special?

Written by Madeline Mayer, Mayyim Hayyim Intern

As my time at Mayyim Hayyim comes to a close, I’ve been thinking a lot about why I love this organization. Here are the top 5 reasons (in no particular order) why this is such a great environment to be a part of.

1.  Sounds of Joy- It is typical for a workday to be “interrupted” by sounds of joy downstairs as someone converts or marks a special transition in their life.  It is not unusual to hear clapping and singing come seemingly from out of nowhere. Constantly hearing sounds of rejoicing brings to life the joy and comfort that people describe after immersing at Mayyim Hayyim.

Madeline Mayer

2. Helping to make a community for all- In the modern Jewish world there is much effort to make the Jewish community a more welcoming place for everyone.  All too often I hear men and women remark about how horrible their conversion experiences were many years ago.  Mayyim Hayyim helps to ensure that people’s transitions to Judaism are as meaningful and welcoming as possible.  No longer shall someone be rushed as they find the courage to take the final step in joining the Jewish faith. At Mayyim Hayyim, people are encouraged to take their time preparing to immerse and have a mikveh guide there for comfort and to answer any questions they may have. Mayyim Hayyim provides a welcoming place for all members of the Jewish community.

3. Working with a great group of women- Mayyim Hayyim’s staff cares deeply about ensuring that the organization runs as successfully as possible.  All of the women in the office are dedicated to their work and ensuring the future of the mikveh. There are constant celebrations, from staff birthdays to welcoming new staff members, that make Mayyim Hayyim an incredibly meaningful and supportive community to be a part of.

4. Beautiful Environment- Walking into Mayyim Hayyim each day is a joy because of the beauty of the building—inside and out.  As you approach the old Victorian home where our organization is housed you initially see beautiful landscaping– in the spring and summer there are an array of flowers in bloom. When you walk in the doors there is a serene entrance that makes one feel at home.  In addition, there is a rotating art exhibit in our gallery that provides a new feel to the Paula Brody & Family Education Center every few months.  The artwork is always different and adds a new vibe to the surrounding.

5. Learning about an ancient ritual- Lastly, it is such an honor to learn about an ancient ritual that I may not have ever learned had I not been introduced to Mayyim Hayyim. Mayyim Hayyim provides learning opportunities for people of all ages. Adults and children learn about mikveh each year because of the education programs that Mayyim Hayyim offers.

As I begin my first full-time job post-grad school, I will cherish these reasons that made my graduate internship at Mayyim Hayyim so wonderful.

Madeline Mayer hails from Leawood, KS.  Later this month, she will complete her master’s degree with the Hornstein Jewish Professional Leadership Program at Brandeis University. She has been at Mayyim Hayyim since June and is working in development. Next year, Madeline will serve as the Development/Alumni Associate at Camp Ramah in New England.

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Shalvi’s Rock and Individual Responsiblity

by Sarah Chandler

Once there was a young girl named Shalvi who lived by a magic stream. These waters could mend a broken heart, repair a shattered limb, and even heal grave illnesses. The individual need only immerse completely in the waters in order to unlock their magic.

And yet, many visitors left with their ailments intact, as they found the task too difficult to achieve.

Shalvi noticed that usually the individual needed to return on several occasions in order to experience a complete healing.

Shalvi would often watch those from near and far approach the stream, seeking relief from their suffering. As she grew older, she came to learn the ways of the waters. With a deep understanding of their healing powers, she began to advise the visitors on their immersion technique.  There was a slight bend in the water that flowed over a hidden area deep enough for a full immersion. It soon became clear that whenever Shalvi was present, the ailing person would be sure to leave with a complete healing.

After some time, the point of immersion in the magic river came to be known as “Shalvi’s Rock.” Townspeople and travelers called upon her and she would emerge from her small stone house to instruct them.

A teary-eyed gentleman arrived one day when Shalvi was nowhere to be found. For weeks and months, the visitors could no longer access the magic of the waters by Shalvi’s Rock. Years later, as the river continued to flow strong and the vines grew up the side of her house, the location of Shalvi’s Rock was forgotten.

The text of this week’s Torah portion describes the ancient Yom Kippur ritual of the high priest atoning for the sins of the entire people. However, in modern times, we are each personally responsible for taking ourselves through the steps of transformation.

Where in your life are you putting energy into relying on others where you could be relying on yourself? Where might you be blaming others and holding resentment when you could be taking personal responsibility for your needs and feelings?

When you give yourself the gift of time and space for a ritual immersion, you may collaborate with attendants or community members. However, at the moment of immersion, you are completely on your own. Only you can take those steps, only you can spread your fingers and toes, only you can open your heart in that moment.

Shalvi’s Rock reminds us that increased reliance on outside forces takes us out of our body, causing us to gradually rely more and more on outside resources, experts and gurus. As we recall the priestly rituals once performed on our behalf, let us also recall that we are a mamlechet kohanim, a kingdom of priests – each with the power to take ourselves through the transformation that we need. May we each find direction from many sources, bringing inside those that nourish and sustain us.

Sarah Chandler, the Associate Director of Adamah Farm at Isabella Freedman, is a Jewish experiential educator, community activist, spiritual leader, and blogger. From 2005-2009, Sarah served as the Director of Jewish Family Life & Learning (JoyFuLL) at West End Synagogue: A Reconstructionist Congregation. She has her M.A. in Jewish Communal and Experiential Education and Hebrew Bible from the Jewish Theological Seminary, and serves as educator with the Teva Learning Center and the Kohenet Institute. She is currently participating in the second cohort of Jewish Mindfulness Teacher Training with the Institute for Jewish Spirituality. Visit isabellafreedman.org for upcoming farmstays, meditation retreats, and other opportunities.

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Celebrating 10,000

Written by Carrie Bornstein

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It happened.

With balloons, family, pictures, and laughter.

Our ten thousandth immersion.

Ten thousand.

Just the sound of it is impressive.  I’ll say it again: ten thousand.

One-by-one we counted. Reaching such a milestone, we can’t help but reflect.  What does it mean for a mikveh to have touched so many lives? How is the landscape of Jewish Boston different because of the widespread support of a dream?

In some ways, the enormity of 10,000 is hard to comprehend.

And in other ways, it’s simple.  The answer is in the stories, that each of these 10,000 immersions contains a person’s real-life experience.  A person just like you and me: The bride awaiting her big day with nervous excitement.  A father who can’t believe his baby is going off to college.  The couple suffering through yet another miscarriage.  A woman trying out monthly immersion in a way that feels safe to her.

And so we pause, in this moment between past and future.  We celebrate our ten thousandth immersion: Charlotte, a girl becoming a Bat Mitzvah at Temple Beth Zion in Brookline.  This isn’t her first visit to Mayyim Hayyim.  It isn’t even her second.  She first came here as an eight-year old when her mother converted to Judaism.  She and her sister immersed too, to formalize and affirm their Jewish identity.  That same day, her other mother immersed in celebration that they were finally all one Jewish family together.  Months later Charlotte accompanied her sister as she immersed before her Bat Mitzvah.  And in 2012, here they are again.

Their story is extraordinary.  And yet, at Mayyim Hayyim, it is completely normal.  At ten thousand, we recognize that the dream is now a reality.  That 135 sensitive volunteer Mikveh Guides, a community of supporters, and daring foundations have made it all happen.  That opening up Jewish ritual to the entirety of the Jewish people, and welcoming them in on their own terms, allows each person to feel exactly what we intended, that “we built this place for you.”

Looking back also helps us look forward.  Our work is far from complete and we have exciting plans in store.  Onwards and upwards: to 20,000!

Carrie Bornstein is Mayyim Hayyim’s Acting Executive Director.  Follow her on twitter@carolinering.

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Blood and Guts

 Written by Caroline Musin Berkowitz

This week, we read two of my favorite Torah portions, Tazria and Metzora, and we learn about what to do when faced with, well, blood and guts. The laws are complex and full of examples of what is tamei, ritually impure, and what is tahor, ritually pure.

If you have a rash, or swelling, or another potential form of tzara’at, leprosy, you must go to the Kohein (High Priest), who will examine you. If the Kohein decides that you have tzara’at, you are tamei and will be sent out of the community, isolated for seven days. Tzara’at can also happen to fabric, or to a house. If you notice reddish or greenish streaks in the walls of your house, the Kohein will come, determine tzara’at status, and send your family out of your tamei house, isolating it for seven days. This separation also goes into effect after the emission of blood or other discharge from one’s body—sometimes the separation is for a day, and sometimes it’s for a week. Not only is the individual affected considered tamei, but anything he or she touches—bedding, dishes, clothing, other people—will also be rendered tamei from the contact.

We could discuss how tzara’at can be caused by non-physical afflictions, or why different forms of discharge require different periods of separation, or any other amount of minutia—trust me, there’s a lot of it! —presented in these chapters, but I’d like to leave you with a thought about what happens at the end of the separation. After a period of time away from the community, the individual returns, but first must make a korban, a sacrifice. Isn’t it interesting that before returning to your community, you must first get closer to God? Does that mean that while tamei, during the separation, we are farther away from God?

Caroline Musin Berkowitz was a Hornstein Intern at Mayyim Hayyim during the 2003-2004 school year. After completing the Hornstein/Heller program at Brandeis, she returned to Chicago, where she works in the Jewish community and tweets @CarolineEr.

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Rooted

By Nina Stewart, Mayyim Hayyim Administrative Assistant

This past Sunday, Earth Day, New England was soaked in a heavy rain that provided much-needed respite from a three-months-long drought. As a Southern transplant, I am still awestruck by the slowness that this region’s rainstorms bring to city life. I spent most of the day reading and writing. Old-time music and raindrops provided a soundtrack for wandering reflections about the connection between Jewish spirituality, nature, and mindfulness.

Recently, a couple of our bloggers have shared their thoughts about this special time of year, the counting of the Omer (measure of wheat, which marks the days between Passover and Shavuot), highlighting how this season invites us to be present in the moment. Their posts created conversation about how to weave mindfulness into the day-to-day. Mikveh is obviously one wonderful way to do this, along with Shabbat, prayer, and meditation. In celebration of Earth Day, I would like to add another idea to the list: spending time outdoors.

In Judaism, we deeply appreciate the relationship between nature and our tradition. For example, a large part of the magnificence of mikveh is the “living” rainwater that flows into the pool when the bor (reservoir) is opened. This season of intention is the perfect time to nurture this ancient connection by hiking, gardening, running, biking, or just taking time to be in nature.

Last week, my partner and I headed to the “Pioneer Valley” of Western MA for some time outdoors. We hiked five miles over unmaintained trails through the forests of Mount Pisgah, searching for vistas that never materialized and encountering several friendly garter snakes along the way. Although this could have easily been a frustrating experience, the warm weather, sparkling vernal pools, and fresh scent of the April woods made it entirely worth it. As we walked, I thought about how I would observe this time of transition from spring to summer, from Passover to Shavuot, while offering gratitude for all that it would bring. I promised myself that this time would involve several more hikes, maybe with actual grand vistas.

Perhaps by the time you read this, the New England rain will have slowed, hopefully leaving dazzling flowers in its wake. Even if it has not, I invite you to pull on your galoshes and share my intention of commemorating this special season by spending more time rejoicing in the outdoors. No garter snakes are waiting, I promise.

Nina Stewart has been working as the Administrative Assistant at Mayyim Hayyim since November 2011. She graduated from Hampshire College in 2008 and now moonlights as a student at the Simmons School of Social Work. Her favorite things about Spring (besides hiking) are sweet iced tea and driving with the windows down.

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Mikveh for LGBT Jews: Use, Adaptation, or Appropriation?

Written by Gabriella Spitzer, Barnard College Student

At Barnard College, where I am currently a junior, I am taking a class called Thinking Sexuality.  Among other things, it deals with the intersections of queer/LGBT life and other aspects of identity.   I’d love your help with research for my final project, researching how queer/LGBT Jews and others have refashioned mikveh to meet their spiritual and queer needs.

I’m interested in all kinds of queer mikveh use: lesbians doing some form of niddah (monthly immersion) practice, gay men using the mikveh as part of their sexual relationships, mikveh use as part of coming out rituals or sex change transitions, and so on.

I am particularly interested in the following issues:

  • Mikveh use intersecting with queer identity
  • Using other Jewish rituals in conjunction with queer aspects of life
  • Specific experience(s) at the mikveh
  • How mikveh use is conceptualized
  • Hesitations about mikveh usage
  • Is mikveh for the LGBT community a use (just like any other) of the mikveh, an adaptation (changing mikveh rituals), or an appropriation (subverting mikveh traditions to suit your needs)?

To fill out my survey, click here. 

Thank you for your help!

Gabriella Spitzer is in the Barnard College class of 2013, an Environmental Science major, and interested in the ways people make rituals meaningful.  

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Counting Up

Written by Aliza Kline, Founding Executive Director of Mayyim Hayyim

It’s hard to believe—but I am now beginning the last nine weeks of this extraordinary 10-month sabbatical in Israel. Pesach is vacation time for every Israeli family with school-age children. Each day of the holiday, all five of us (my husband Bradley, and our daughters Ela, Gila and Nomi and I) piled into the car for one adventure or another-Jerusalem’s zoo, a children’s theater festival in Haifa, hiking in the Negev, picnics in Nature Reserves….  It’s a happy time. The whole country seems to be in celebration mode with flags waving, free cultural programs in the cities and towns. The weather is ideal, warm but not yet oppressively hot.  It’s just right.

In the midst of this happiness comes preparing for our transition home to Boston in June. This year I am finding deeper meaning in the counting of the Omer (measure of wheat), marking time between Passover and Shavuot, between leaving Egypt and the giving of the Torah at Sinai. The idea is that we (Israelites) are eager to receive Torah so we count the days, counting up rather than down.  (Click for a helpful article on MyJewishLearning.com for more on the Omer.)

It’s an interesting idea to count up.  Rather than thinking about all that we have to do before a deadline we can focus on all that we get to do once we’ve reached that momentous day.  Counting also provides that helpful reminder to be mindful of each day, to be aware of time passing. To be “present” regardless of whether the day or hour or minute brings joy or sorrow.

This is my goal for the remainder of the Omer plus the remaining time before our return. I pledge to be as present as possible. To keep my eyes open, drinking in the surroundings, hearing, smelling, touching, tasting and engaging with Israel. I promise to immerse myself in these last precious weeks of an unforgettable year.

Will you join me in this pledge?

What tools will we need to keep this promise? What rituals will help us focus our energy and time? Meditation? Long walks? Deep breaths? Time away from our electronics? Shabbat? Mikveh?

I am certain that I will need all of the above – plus some. I am anticipating major life transitions, starting with my family’s departure from Israel, extending to my upcoming departure from Mayyim Hayyim – and from there into the unknown future for my career in New York.

Counting up is optimistic. Counting up implies growth and opportunity and welcomes in the unknown.

Bring it on. I am ready.

Aliza Kline, Founding Executive Director, has led Mayyim Hayyim from its initial stages, overseeing fund raising, publicity, design, construction, staffing, recruiting volunteers, and board development. In May, 2009, Aliza was awarded an AVI CHAI Fellowship (best described as the “Jewish MacArthur Genius Grant”) in recognition of her accomplishments, creativity and commitment to the Jewish people.

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